Writing tips from the Festival of Books
I brought home a grab-bag of goodies from the L.A. Times Festival of Books. Are you interested? Grab a cup of coffee and pull up a chair.
Memoir: What Shapes Us – what happened, and what it means
Panelists: Mark Doty, Bich Minh Nguyen, Emily Rapp, Clancy Sigal
A memoir
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isn’t a work of history, but rather, a work of memory.
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is elastic by nature, stretching the time-space continuum to suit the story and/or theme.
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is a shaped narrative that attaches meaning to facts and dates.
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isn’t the author; it’s an artifact.
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is an artistic relationship with the truth.
Advice for writers
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Don’t wait until people are dead to write your memoir. You could die before your book gets written.
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Understand why you need to tell your story.
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If you try to create a universal theme, you risk writing a bland bookful of overgeneralizations. Be specific, so your readers can learn and/or relate.
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Begin not with what you don’t remember; instead, start with things you can’t forget.
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We can’t know for sure that we’re fairly depicting our relationships with others.
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Don’t underestimate the fact that your unconscious self has already been working on your memoir.
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The more you revise, the more distance you place between yourself and your memories.
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Take a look at these two articles: Publish, Then Flee: How to tell your family you’re writing about them and All About Me? The state of the modern memoir.
Nonfiction: Humor and Attitude
Panelists: Samantha Dunn, Larry Miller, Neal Pollack, Jill Soloway
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Humor = channeled humiliation. Example: If you slip on a banana peel, people will laugh at you. If you tell people you slipped on a banana peel, you become the hero of your story.
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Micro is macro: The smallest details, well-written, make your story come to life.
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The greatest part of drama is comedy; the greatest part of comedy is the drama behind it.
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If you tell people you’re going to write about them, make it known you’re not asking for permission.
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If you choose to write about other people, give them small penises so they’ll be more reluctant to come forward with a complaint.
Memoir: Lessons Learned
Panelists: Jessica Hendra, Arianna Huffington, Aimee Liu, Karen Stabiner
Lessons about memoir-writing
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Memoirs must be about pain, struggle, failure, and transformation. Otherwise, they’re uninteresting.
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Shame keeps us quiet; memoirs provide us with a voice.
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Memories that matter to you may not matter to the story of your life.
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Editing a memoir is difficult because you’re editing pieces of your life.
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Writing a memoir = selling your life for $26.95.
Advice about writing overall
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Practice doesn’t make perfect; practice makes things easier.
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Believe passionately in what you do.
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Take a kinder view of yourself. Also, be kind to yourself by participating in mindful awareness programs that renew your sense of hope (e.g., yoga, meditation, tai chi, etc.).
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Fear is “that obnoxious roommate living inside your head. Kick her out or send her to her room.” (Ariana Huffington)
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You can’t live a life devoid of fear, but you can learn to manage it. Propel yourself forward, despite your fears.
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Build a tribe of fearless friends.
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Blogging’s a great way to get over your fearfulness. Caveat: you have to put your true self into your blog, and you must engage your reader.
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Disclaimer: Most of these quotes aren’t precise, nor are they directly attributed to the original source. Also, though I tried to scribble down the highlights, I’m sure I omitted some fabulous bon mots.
Want more? My partner-in-crime friend Jonathan posted some great Festival photos.